Most leaders don’t stay stuck because they lack skill, they stay stuck because of an authentic leadership identity they haven’t claimed yet.
In Episode 3 of From Stuck to Leading self-coaching series, Bernadette Boas breaks down the difference between a Borrowed, Performed, and Owned leadership identity, and walks through exactly what happens the moment you stop performing for the people around you.
This episode delivers the five concrete moves Bernadette’s private clients use to shed a self-limiting story: finding the story behind a diagnostic gap, gathering the evidence that contradicts it, naming who you’ve been performing for, rewriting the story, and making one deliberate choice from it.
It builds directly on Episode 1 (Discover) and Episode 2 (Confront). If you haven’t caught those yet, start there before diving into this one. https://balloffirecoaching.com/podcast
What You Will Learn
● The exact story quietly keeping you out of the room for your next promotion
● Why the people closest to you may resist your growth and why it isn’t your problem to manage
● The difference between a Borrowed, Performed, and Owned leadership identity
● The 5-move method for shedding your limiting beliefs
● How to find the evidence that proves your limiting story was never true
● One deliberate choice you can make this week to start living your new story
Episode Chapters0:00 — Cold Open + Series Recap (matches — “the most dangerous moment…” opens the episode)
3:00 — What Shedding Actually Means
12:00 — The Three Leadership Identities
22:00 — Moves 1 & 2: Story and Evidence
38:00 — Move 3: Who You’re Performing For
42:00 — Moves 4 & 5: Rewrite and Choose
47:00 — Bernadette’s Story: The Milkman’s Daughter (
52:00 — Close + Episode 4 Preview
About This Self-Coaching Series
From Stuck to Leading: Episode 1 — Discover, Episode 2 — Confront, Episode 3 — Shed (this episode), Episode 4 — Create and Episode 5 — Accelerate (every other Tuesday).
Related Episodes
● Episode 2 — Confront https://balloffirecoaching.com/5-inner-fears-destroying-your-leadership/
● Episode 1— Discover https://balloffirecoaching.com/from-stuck-to-leading/
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