Key Tips for Engaging a Mentor, Coach or Sponsor……

November 18, 2015, by , Posted in Blog, 0 Comment

My father taught me from an early age that it was critical to have role models in my life that reflect the type of person I wanted to be. As a result, from my second grade teacher, Sister Clare, to the few mentors and coaches I have in my life today, have played significant roles in growing into the women, friend, sister, daughter, aunt, friend, lover, employee, client, vendor, and business owner I am today.

Surrounding myself with individuals that I aspire to be, and who are open, honest and giving of their experiences, talents, lessons, and support, has made the difference between giving up and throwing things all away, at times, and succeeding over and beyond my expectations.

So why doesn’t everyone with a passion or goal for success engage one? It is simple, they do not understand the what, why, when, where,  and how.

What is the role of a mentor, coach or sponsor? To listen, advise, guide, coach, instruct, construct, support and encourages an individual in pursuant of specific goals and objectives they defined for themselves, in a casual or structured manner

Difference between a Mentor, Coach and Sponsor?

  • Mentoring is a role model, teacher, counselor relationship focused on personal/professional development needs
  • Coaching focuses on developing a specific or tactical skill or talent toward a goal / timeframe
  • Sponsorship is an advocacy or reference based relationship built on established awareness of an individuals capability

Why engage one? – To help you gain, develop and grow your own personal and professional skills, talents, traits, characteristics, and expertise, while focusing on navigating you through solving issues, tacking challenges, decision making, and seeking new opportunities.

When? – At any time for feel you need guidance, advice and support on a goal or aspiration you have for yourself. They can come and go quickly or you can find a lifetime mentor or coach that remains part of your personal or professional life and experiences – though the relationship changes over time.

  • Top question regarding ‘when’ – what time/duration/frequency can I expect someone to engage with me? That will all depend on the goal and timeframe you have to achieve it. You can start with bi-weekly 30 minute discussions and change it from there. The frequency can be weekly, bi-weekly, monthly, quarterly, or casually (when you have a need or issue)

Where? – Decide with the coach or mentor where you will meet – on a call, in person, skype, etc… It should be convenient for both of you

Who? – First define the reason you need coaching or mentoring – answer what skills, talents, experiences, resources, connections, etc. you need, and that will tell you the Who.

How? – These relationships can be structured or casual. Again, depends on what you need. Considerations – do you have a specific goal and timeframe that you need to acquire certain skills, traits, experiences, or are you expecting challenges that need advisement on. Those answers will determine if you need a casual – when needed, type of collaboration, or a pre-scheduled, structured relationship.

RICHaction to take –

Define your What, Where, When, How, Why and Who….. lay it all out, then seek out the individuals that can provide you the needs you have.

Good luck, let me know how it goes…..

Bernadette Boas is the ball of fire behind Ball of Fire Consulting, Ball of Fire Inc. (media/publishing) and her book Shedding the Corporate Bitch, Shifting Bitches to Riches in Life and Business. Bernadette is a speaker, radio personality of Shedding the Bitch Radio, business growth consultant and coach, and the leader of the Shedding the Bitch® movement, transforming individuals, businesses and their company cultures to one of RICHness and profit.

Leave a Comment

CommentLuv badge